traversing twenties : with Nisha Moodley

If could reach back through time and have a heart-to-heart with your twentysomething self, what would you say to her? 

She’s in her twenties, that glorified period of life when she’s supposed to be discovering herself, deep in exploration, living her most defining decade. And yet.....she may feel like the exact opposite. Or exactly that. Or somewhere in between. She probably doesn't even know.

Maybe you pour her a cup of tea, look into her eyes, wrap her in a hug.

What do you tell her? 

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In today's very first Traversing Twenties guest post, we have some beautiful words on sisterhood from the gorgeous Nisha Moodley. When I first came across Nisha last year, I became enamored by her crazy amounts of wisdom, little snippets on Facebook that blow you away, and of course her use of red lipstick (she gets asked about it so much she even has a tutorial video!) I just knew that Nisha would be perfect for this series, and she graciously contributed. Thank you, Nisha:

Dear Me,

I know you feel lonely sometimes, even when people think things are perfect.

Sometimes you hide your true feelings from others and don't tell them the difficult or painful things you're going through, because you're embarrassed.  You don't want them to know the messy bits, so you keep them to yourself.  It's confusing. And lonely.

So you try to fix it all by yourself.  You rack your brain in search of answers to your deepest questions, and hope to goodness that you find your way soon.  You read self-help books and go to yoga, searching for clear answers and the courage to listen. 

I understand.  And I have something to tell you, sweet one.  Please listen carefully.

You are a woman, and for all of humankind, women have lived together.  At any other time in humankind, if you were happy, sad, confused, embarrassed, excited or lonely, one of your sisters would notice.  She'd come sit with you to listen to you...to hold your hand and laugh with you, cry with you, advise you, and help you find your way. 

I know it feels natural to isolate yourself and hide your deepest truths.  I know it feels a bit scary and embarrassing to imagine telling someone all of your confusing thoughts, but here is the truth: you are not designed to do it by yourself.  You are not built to find clarity in solitude.  You need your sisters.  It's built into the fabric of being a woman.

Please know this, and make a gentle effort at sharing what's really going on with a woman you trust.  If you don't have a woman in your life that you trust, make a gentle effort to find one...then another.  This is not just for you, my dear (although it will make your whole life richer and more pleasurable), it is for all of us.  The world needs women in sisterhood. 

Next time you feel something, share it.  It may take something, but it will give you so much more.

Love,
Me

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Nisha Moodley is a former foodaholic, shopaholic and workaholic, turned freedom junkie, who broke free from addiction and is on a mission to champion women's freedom.  She is the founder of FIERCE FABULOUS FREE, where she takes women on incredible adventures worldwide to create a clear vision for their future, and design their lives and work to align with that vision. 

Download her free Take Flight Action Guide at http://fiercefabulousfree.com.